Experiments in sexual life attract many. It is not surprising that we want something new or more intense sensations. If such actions take place with the consent of the parties and bring pleasure to both partners, then we can only advise you to be careful and not to forget about contraception.
But if the experiments are aimed only at satisfying one’s own needs, it is worth thinking about the consequences.
We want to talk frankly with you about masturbation and pornography, whether they have a place in everyday life and how they affect health.
What you should know about masturbation
Masturbation is obtaining sexual pleasure through stimulation of one’s own genitals. It usually ends with an orgasm: ejaculation in men and contraction of the pelvic organs in women.
We do not want to evaluate masturbation and say whether it is good or not. Read the following paragraphs and decide for yourself.
What are the benefits of masturbation?
Sexologists and psychologists usually voice the following arguments:
the opportunity to get to know your body better: what movements are pleasant to you, in what position, with what intensity
after that, you can teach your partner to do the same for you
the possibility of getting venereal diseases is excluded
a way to relieve tension, stress or get pleasure without the presence of a partner
Harm from masturbation:
less physical attraction to a partner
addiction and sexual addiction
emotional devastation
selfishness in relationships: everyone tries to satisfy himself, not his partner
psychological conflict: during the process, you can imagine that you are performing this action together with a partner, an acquaintance or a desired person. But the reality is different. Such an imbalance will not benefit your body
Masturbation is useful on a physiological level. But it can have negative consequences for psychological and emotional health. Consider these moments in your sex life.
In the previous paragraph, we touched on the topic of pornography. Let’s talk about her in more detail.
What you should know about pornography
Pornography is the representation of scenes of sexual intercourse and naked genitalia in films, images or verbally. The purpose of pornography is sexual arousal.
The most common product of pornography is porn – a film that shows sexual relations.
In Ukraine, pornography is prohibited by the law “On Protection of Public Morals”. According to this law, the production and sale of pornographic material is not allowed and is punishable by imprisonment.
If we have found a number of advantages in masturbation, then with pornography it will not work like that. It is harmful to both the body and the psyche. Let’s figure out why.
5 reasons not to watch porn
Reason 1: Porn is an illusion, not a role model
Have you ever wondered why porn stars are called actors? That’s right, all because they play the role assigned to them. Porn scenes have their own clear script, and actors learn their roles: movements, exclamations, gestures.
Porn is a lie. It is artificial and has nothing to do with how things happen in real life.
Reason 2: high expectations for your partner
Porn can be amazing. Some scenes look particularly unusual. You might like them and want to recreate them with your partner in real life. But here’s the trouble: it’s practically impossible. Why? Because read reason 1: porn = lies. In real life, everything is not like that: not such crazy screams, not such bright orgasms, as the actors record them. Some positions are absolutely not comfortable, and the actors in them simply imitate pleasure.
If you try with your partner, nothing will work and you will hardly think that porn is the reason. You will look for the reason in yourself or, even worse, start blaming your partner. Do not do this, because you can deeply offend your partner and harm your relationship.
Reason 3: Porn is addictive
The worst thing is that after frequent viewing of porn, sexual desire for a partner disappears. This is not surprising: it is much easier to bring self-satisfaction by watching impressive intimate scenes than to bring your partner to orgasm. But you already know that it is foolish to believe and focus on porn.
In pornography, as with drugs: you start with easy scenes, but after a month or two you need a bigger “dose”. You start looking for harder porn and increasingly distort your perception of the real world.
Reason 4: Porn destroys the bond with a partner
We have already mentioned this in part in the previous paragraphs. The desire for a partner becomes less and less. Lack of sex can cause quarrels. Partners are focused only on their own satisfaction. The desire to please the partner also decreases. All this gradually begins to destroy relations. And the reason is self-satisfaction from watching porn. Isn’t it easier to just not turn it on and enjoy the presence of a person next to you?
Reason 5: psychological problems
Guilt, pain, shame, alienation from other people are only part of what a porn addict feels internally. In addition, the development of complexes and loss of trust in the closest people. It would seem that porn is not so bad, but it takes root deep in the human psyche. This is the problem.
How to get rid of porn addiction?
First of all, realize that porn is harmful. Feel a deep inner need to end it;
voice your problem in front of your partner. If you have a really deep relationship, you will find the first support and support in this person;
consult a psychologist: so your path to overcoming addiction will be as easy as possible;
be in motion: do sports, find a new hobby, meet with friends more often. A change in activity is always good for the brain. Well, you simply won’t have the energy and time to watch porn;
don’t give up! You are fighting an addiction, not searching for a text to congratulate your aunt on Google. Therefore, it will not be easy. You will want to give up, you will want to return to your habit. When it will be especially difficult, remember why you started all this and that you need to move forward.
Sexuality is a beautiful facet of a person. But, as you can see, you have to be careful with her. We understand that there may be no one around you that you can confide in and share your porn addiction with. That’s why you have us! With a team of volunteers or psychologists, anonymous or not – you decide how to get help.
There is nothing to be ashamed of, we say right away. Feel free to write to us as much as possible.
Everything will be fine if you put a little effort into it.
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